How to Stop Blaming Others for Your Problems


“Maybe, sometimes, it’s easier to be mad at the people you trust because you know they’ll always love you, no matter what.”

–       Ann Brashares

1) Stop Blaming Everything and Everyone for the Mistakes You Make

We tend to look for weaknesses in other people to justify ourselves. It is a simpler path, but it is the longest road to happiness and it may not even lead you to the right destination – too many distractions on the way. The solution to almost all our problems is in understanding the power we hold in our own hands. Your decisions, your choices, and your actions made this happen.

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2) You Have the Power to Adjust the Course of Your Life

There are so many things in life we do not notice but regret on the day of the final scene. The play is over and you do not have all the time in the world as you used to think. You were postponing the time to be with loved ones (later, another day); delaying the meeting with an old relative and asking the right questions to find out about the roots of your family tree (now it is too late). You rescheduled that vacation you dreamed about multiple times (next year – turns to be several years and now you are not healthy enough to travel long distances). On your deathbed you get to understand that new car you bought not having enough money for it and putting more debt on your shoulders deprived you of enriching your life with real valuable things – impressions and experiences that only new places and acquaintances can provide. It is a sad play. Don’t wait until it becomes your reality. 

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Love yourself and make an effort to appreciate everybody and everything around you. Eliminate any negative influences and impressions (TV-horror movies, people that make you feel miserable; places that tend to bring bad memories – anything that can change the state of tranquility). It is not an easy thing to do. But to consciously control your focus is a perfect way to direct your energy flow.


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