To be a WOMAN in the most beautiful sense of this word.
L. was in her fifth edition, and that outfit looked just as good as four others she’d tried. We’ve been going through her wardrobe for a good half hour now and each succeeding combination was even more brave than the previous one.
“It will be rather a lark if you wear this one to work,” I said succinctly.“I’m just in my yarn when I put things like that on,” said L. covering her bare shoulders with a gorgeous handmade shawl in pastel purple, beige, and blue flowers.
L. is my closest friend. The one I see only once in a few years, do not talk for months, and always feel closely attached to. L. never follows any trends in style and looks stunning in her very few outfits, bought years ago or presented by dear people. She is a minimalist when it comes to wardrobe computation. But each article of clothing is most adored and cherished by her.
Magnetism seems to radiate from L. She is not beautiful in a way we used to consider facial attractiveness. Just a shade below average height, she nevertheless conveys herself with an expression of assurance far beyond the ordinary. The faintest curve of humor never deserts her lips making her face – sweet in expression, but somewhat irregular in features – charming.
I pulled out a leather pocket-book: which, like myself, was very petite, and got ready to listen… Every idea L. shared with me could have been compiled to a separate book.
“A WOMAN that is in love with herself makes everything that she does beautiful. Every move she makes, every, even the most trifling thing, becomes enveloped in meaning. Her life: family, kids, career – for sure is interesting, every aspect of it. Why?”
1) Pay Attention to Yourself First
“Because she cares about her own feelings – that attention towards herself in her ‘to do’ list is primary. She gifts herself first and then she has more to share.”
“I love my kids and I want them to have a healthy, energetic, beautiful mother. That is the reason I go to my yoga class, meet my girlfriends at least twice a week, and do my exercises once a day.”
“I often need that time with just me for a company. So, I take a short, usually one-week trip every winter to whatever destination I chose.”
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2) Work on Your Inner and Outer Self
“I want to be interesting that is why I am interested in many things. I read on various topics. Fashion is just one of the many. I know my colors and how to play with them. It is easy when you give yourself time to research and experiment.”
“I meet new people constantly and find new activities. I used to go to a drawing class, enjoyed it for a while, got acquainted with a couple of great people and then transferred my attention to private music lessons. Now I can play the guitar, not very well (I need to practice more) but I consider it my personal achievement.”
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3) Find Your Own Style
“I do not like shopping. But I am attentive to what is pleasing to the eye. I try my outfits, various combinations at my leisure time to get to know them better. I consider my shawls, skirts, and jackets – my friends, that is why I have only a few and love them dearly.”
“At any rate, things change so much. I don’t want to always rush to be in time, in style, in anything. I take my moment as I feel it. I collected a few good quality articles and a couple imposing accessories – and a great variety of charming smiles to my closet.”
4) Listen to Your Beautiful Self
“Everyone’s got intuition. The inner voice that never deceives. Some just forgot how to distinguish it in the multitude of whirling thoughts. Women are more sensitive. That time I spend alone helps me to find good grounds with that precious girl in me. She knows what is better for me. I do not want to be one of the crowd, I am to all appearances different, unique – and I love it.”
“I keep a close watch on how I feel in my clothes, bearing philosophically the judgment of others. When freed from the demands and expectations, you live in harmony with yourself. We, by no means, need not lose ourselves in chasing trends.”
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A woman dressed in confidence and love is always elegant. You triumph over any fashion when enough time is given to renew your inner tranquility. Labor tenderly in enriching your sense of beauty. Meet with intelligent people, go to interesting gatherings, fascinate your mind with thought-provoking books… and feel good in garments you wear. Let your inner organization be your guide in choosing a dress as a friend that is going to be fond of your body and a companion to your soul.
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